The Journey to Great Hair?

Qhemet BiologicsOkay, so my co-worker got me interested in Qhemet Biologics.  I tried resisting, but found myself doing some research on the web.  The more I read, the more I wanted to try a few of the products.  I had previously tried Miss Jessie’s Curly Meringue and the Stretch Silkening Creme. Thank goodness I only bought the travel sizes because I was beyond disappointed with the results for both products. Ironically, I tried Miss Jessie’s because of a co-worker (again). She loves their stuff and it works for her. Let’s just say, the lucky girl will be getting my full jars. Anyway, back to Qhemetic Biologics. This time I was more careful with my research and I decided to spring for the stuff. Problem No.1- This stuff is regulated like a controlled substance. No eBay, no long list of on-line shops selling QB. I was going to order from their website, however, the products I wanted most were sold out. Incredibly, there is one (yes, only ONE) brick and mortar store that carries Qhemet Biologics. Today, I left my home in Queens and made the journey to Brooklyn (Back to the Land Natural Foods) in order to get my hands on some. I dunno, maybe I wanted it more because it was so hard to get??? In the store, one of the employees commented on how fast QB sells out. They didn’t have everything I wanted, but they had what was at the top of my list: Egyptian Wheatgrass Cleansing Tea (SLS free!), Cocoa Tree Detangling Ghee and Olive & Honey Hydrating Balm. So, I’m going to try these out tomorrow (with my curl-ease towel, of course), and I’ll be sure to let ya know how it goes!


Curls with Ease

So! I was browsing several days ago and came across this hair towel that intrigued me. I guess I’m a little slow when it comes to new hair products because I basically like to keep my line up simple. Anyway, the Curl-Ease towel is touted as being the “the only towel for girls with curls.” (catchy like a nursery rhyme, right?) I am a serial review reader. I love the Internet particularly for this reason. Imagine my delight when Afrobella had some info available on the curl-ease towel! I decided to buy the towel using my Bed, Bath & Beyond 20% off coupon to help out, figuring that if it didn’t work for me, I could use it on my daughter’s hair.
I love this towel. I’ve used it twice so far. Yesterday, I washed my hair and did the whole curl primer found on Tightly Curly (see blogroll for the link). Side note: I think Teri is on to something with her technique, at least, it works for my unruly tresses. My curls have never looked so great. I’m loving the attention and compliments they attract. (lol) Back to the towel. I did the turban thing that most of us ladies do, and left it wrapped for about 20 minutes. When I unwrapped, my hair was damp and my curls were beautifully defined. I think that next time I wash my hair I’ll leave it wrapped for an extra 15 minutes just to have it a little less damp. Today, I used the towel again as I was getting ready for work. I used a spritz bottle with water to moisten my hair, and added a little conditioner. Than I wrapped my hair in the towel for about 5 minutes. My hair was barely damp, but when I removed the towel, like magic, my curls had bounced back and were quite lovely to look at. I really want to experiment with this product some more, but so far I am very pleased. When I was getting the towel, BB&B had a few other choices (one was microfiber). There are those who swear by them, but I could just see curl-easemy hair being a fuzzy, frizzy mess with that, so I stuck with the curl-ease towel. It’s cotton, thin like cheese cloth, and nothing special to look at. I’m happy.

Good Hair

  There’s been quite a bit of talk about Chris Rock’s new movie, GOOD HAIR.  I must admit, I’m interested and look forward to watching it.  It amazes me that though we seem to have come so far we are still hung up on the same negative junk.  No matter how we tell our daughters that they are beautiful and precious, they are still bombarded with someone else’s idea of what beauty should be!  Why can’t we liberate ourselves from the cookie cutter ideal of beauty? 

  A couple of months ago I saw something so beautiful, so amazing, that I had to pause and give her all of my attention.   A black woman I could only really describe in one word as a glamazon (tall, dark skinned and beautiful in every way that defied the euro-centric ideal).  What was amazing was her hair: she was rockin’ the biggest Afro puff I’ve probably ever seen.  She was confident and unapologetic which definitely added to her appeal. 

  I’ve been natural for about four years.  My first return to my roots (pardon any pun), started back in 1999.  I was starting my last year of university in England and my hair was a disaster.  I had entered higher education with long, thick (albeit, relaxed) hair, but quickly discovered that the UK was not exactly hair friendly for black women unless one lived in London.  While home in Toronto during  the summer break, I cut it all off and kept about an inch. 

In 2005, I cut in down to an inch again.  My decision was partially due to the massive amount of hair I was shedding after having  my youngest child.  I did decide, however, that I would never, ever chemically relax my hair again. 

My hair would definitely fall into the “bi-racial” category.  Like most people from the West Indies, I’m pretty mixed up. I’ve struggled and had a love/hate relationship with my tresses for most of my life. My hair is: curly, kinda silky, kinda kinky at the roots.  In my youth, I felt as though there was never quite a perfect fit for me in terms of hair products.  There was just some stuff that ‘worked’.  I guess that’s because my hair wasn’t silky like my dad’s (he  looks as though he’s Indian) and it wasn’t the same texture as my mom’s. 

Anyway, like most ladies I know (a few of us went natural together…great for morale!) going natural the first time is usually a little bit of an eye opener.  You can’t treat your hair the same way or use the same things on it.  Also, I had this crazy idea that natural hair would be naturally healthy and low maintenance.  Not true.  It still takes work, and if you have no idea what you’re doing, it can become so frustrating that the thought of relaxing it will seem like heaven.  My advice would be to look at your hair differently.  Embrace it with love.  This is the hair God gave you, and it’s beautiful.  When I was small, my mother used to say, “This hair is as unruly as its master.”  I always took it as a compliment, meaning that I couldn’t be dominated by anyone.  Why then, was I so intent on ruling my hair and trying to change it? Needless to say, that like me in attitude, my hair decided to rebel and give me trouble when I forced it to conform to something it wasn’t.   

For those of you who need help on how to manage, there are a lot of websites and blogs that can give great insight.  Afrobella is great, as is Tightly Curly. I don’t believe in one answer working for everyone where hair and beauty is concerned.  Some ladies love relaxing their hair and it works for them.  I say, it if works and you’re happy, then great!  However, if it isn’t working, then maybe it’s time to try something new.  Just remember to educate yourself on how to handle your natural ‘do.