Mascara Woes: Diorshow NO NO

I’ve been using Fiberwig Mascara very happily for several months now.  Unfortunately, I started getting really curious about the Diorshow Mascara and had to try it.  I blame all the great reviews on Sephora’s website.

I’m so glad I didn’t buy it at the full price.  I should have known that Diorshow wouldn’t work for me.  Why? Well, simply put, the brush.  The mascara brush, wand, whatever term you would like to use, is very big, very thick.  My lashes are very puny, very thin.  I have to say, I was sorely disappointed in the performance of this product.  I’m sure it works wonders on other lashes, but it doesn’t work for me.  It was somewhat clumpy, goopy (is that a word) and dry, all at the same time.

My lashes would've looked like this if I didn't know any better!

My lashes would've looked like this if I didn't know any better!

I can’t go into detail because it really didn’t do anything but clump and flake for me.

Fiberwig, I’m so sorry I betrayed you, and vow not to stray so easily again…

Scentimental thoughts

I love perfume.

I suppose, my love affair with perfume falls in line with my preoccupation with all things hair and beauty.  Honestly, I don’t think I had a choice when it came to falling hard for perfume.  It is said that a powerful link between scent and memory exists.  I believe this to be true.  It is because of (and through) my mother that I am a lover of perfume.  When I was a little girl, one of my favorite things to do was look at the beautiful perfume bottles that graced my mother’s dressing table.  I can still remember many of the names on those bottles: Guerlain, Givenchy, Rochas.  The scented elixirs were gorgeous, and, to me, my mom was the loveliest smelling person I knew.  In the center of all these perfumes on her dresser was a tiny cream box, outlined in black.  In this box held the treasure of my mother’s collection: 1 ounce of  Chanel No. 5 Parfum.  The bottle was tiny, delicate, and yet, with no more than a dab, the perfume lasted all day.  A quarter of an ounce of the same Parfum today would cost more than a hundred dollars, so I look back in wonder that she allowed me to hold, examine, and dab on, a perfume that many women can only enjoy in Eau de toilette strength.  As I became older, perfume became a necessary finishing touch for me when it came to getting ready.  In middle school, I would creep in my parents’ room in the morning and steal a spritz of Amarige de Givenchy or whatever else appealed to me.  Never was I told to stop, so it became a habit.  On the weekend,  I would go to The Bay in Yorkdale Mall with my mom and head straight to the perfume counter.  All the ladies in that department knew my mom pretty much by name.  It seemed that she could get what no one else could, whether it be a great deal on perfume, extras thrown in or generous samples that were supposed to be finished.  By no means is my mother a wealthy woman; however, she was savvy enough to save and put her extra pocket change away so that when she saw something she really wanted, buying it wouldn’t be an issue.  In high school, I went from visiting my mom’s room for perfume, to having my own impressive collection.  While most of my friends were putting their money into the latest sneakers and buying clothes full price retail, I was fully obsessed with perfume.  My mother encouraged this obsession/addiction and by graduation, the tables had some how turned and mom was visiting my room to spritz just as often as I visited hers.  On my wedding day, she presented me with a bottle of Vera Wang, knowing I had been coveting it.  It was my ’something new’ and fitting, somehow, since I couldn’t very well afford a Vera Wang wedding gown.  After I started having babies, loving perfume went on hold.  It just didn’t seem kosher to have my baby’s face against my skin while doused in a potential irritant.  I felt naked without wearing it, but stopped wearing  for a few years.  As of present, I’m trying to slowly rebuild my collection.  At 30, I honestly wish I had the collection I had at 17.  I have revisited some old favorites, which still smell fab on me, but I’ve also discovered that as one’s body chemistry changes (having kids, menopause, you name it) so does what works with one’s chemistry. A perfume that may have smelled lovely on you at 20, may not smell the same on you at 40.  Strange but true.  So, with sharing this little history of mine with perfume, look forward to seeing some posts featuring fragrances in all their glory.

Frizz be gone!

no-frizz-hair-productsI try to stay off of sephora.com and away from the store.

I try.

Sometimes failing miserably can be a good thing.  Case in point: this summer, I found myself on the afore mentioned website to discover a new product that I had to have.

Living Proof’s No Frizz Styling Treatment is what I’m talking about.  So, how is this potion different from a silicone-based anti-frizz serum?  In the easiest of terms, this product has no silicone in it. Nada.  The inventors found that silicone weighs hair down and doesn’t penetrate the hair shaft; therefore, your hair feels heavy, and some (or most) of it still frizzes when it rains or becomes humid.  For the full story and science behind this new product and how it works, I recommend going to Sephora’s website and visiting Living Proof’s page.

Back to the review.  I visited the store the next day and received the last deluxe samples they had.  I was excited, for sure, armed with both curly and straight treatments for thick to course hair.  The instructions given to me worked like a charm, so here they are:  When your hair is still damp after washing, put in whatever conditioning treatment or leave-in that you like to use as long as it is silicone-free.  This is important.  Silicone and No Frizz do not get along at all.  Apart from that, put whatever magic potion you usually use on your damp tresses.  After adding your leave-in of choice, use a generous amount of No Frizz, making sure that you saturate each and every strand of hair.  I used the treatment for curly hair first, and was amazed at how beautiful my curls looked.  There was a little bit of crunch going on (just a lil bit), but it wasn’t an issue.  My hair did not frizz at all, which is saying a lot.  I brought my sample for straight hair to the Dominican salon where I had my hair blown out.  The stylist followed my directions in applying the No Frizz and one week later my hair was still shiny and smooth, even as I went to Jamaica.  Once on holiday, I witnessed first hand how amazing No Frizz can be when used correctly.  Through sweat and all, my hair stayed fabulously straight and smooth.  My cousin, who was also vacationing in Jamaica, bought a bottle and found the result just as good, even with relaxed hair.  I’m a big believer in the motto, “Everything ain’t for everybody” when it comes to hair and beauty, but I do think this formula is worth a try.  If you can get a sample made (or 2 or 3) from Sephora, go for it.

Natural Hair Day???

tyrabanksI was wasting time online the other day when I came across the most hilarious piece of “news” one could possibly publish.  Stop the presses: TYRA BANKS HAS DECLARED SEPT. 8TH NATURAL HAIR DAY.   Now, before we get into this, please, take a moment to digest the uppercase info.  The story in a nutshell is as follows: Season 5 for the Tyra Banks show will air on Sept. 8th.  Tyra wants to “take it to the next level” and have women (including herself) “rock what they’ve got and be proud!” (Her words, which is why I’m being a good English graduate and using the quotation marks.)  She is encouraging women to go natural with her.

I read the article and had to laugh because, well, I’m not sure why, but I do know that confusion has already spread like wildfire.  Tyra’s definition of going natural is to wear her ‘real’ hair instead of a weave.  This in itself brings up the whole debate of  what is natural.  She didn’t say she wouldn’t relax it, show her kinks & coils or anything of that nature, and there I give her some credit.  She fed her audience enough for them to grab hold and tune in, but has made no distinctions or promises.  I read some of the comments from readers after finishing the article and needless to say, some were positive, most were not.

Here’s the thing.  I’m not going to hate on Tyra, but I will give my honest opinion.  I’m sure she’s done her part in some ways to help weaken the stereotype that the fashion powers have when it comes to models that don’t look like a pasty stick figure.  Everyone has differing opinions on what natural hair is, and I’m sure that to some, my hair wouldn’t be natural enough, and that’s fine.  To me, natural hair is free of chemical processing.  I have a semi-permanent colour in my hair at the moment, and I like it.  Sometimes I get my hair pressed.  Most times I wear it the way God gave it to me: curly and wild.  I think it is possible to be natural and have extensions put in or a weave.  The major factor involved is that it may be something you may do occasionally, and is not a case of never showing your real hair.  A friend of mine went on vacation and put extensions in: she swam every day, looked gorgeous and never once worried about the humidity or fussed about how her hair looked.  To me, it’s all about using your head (no pun intended).  There are a lot of women who have hair issues who can’t live and let live.  Instead, they project their junk onto others.  Personally, I don’t believe that every woman who relaxes, wears weaves or such is ashamed of their hair.  I think it’s silly to come to this conclusion, although I’ve read this comment quite a few times on different hair blogs.  There are women like that, sure, but it can also be a case of something just working well for a person and her lifestyle.  As for Tyra…well, I don’t think she falls into the ‘natural’ category.  What can I say, I deal with my hair every day.  I am my own stylist.  Sometimes the hair cooperates, sometimes it doesn’t.  I don’t need to mark my calendar for a natural hair day since every day has been natural for the last few years.

An Epiphany

It’s been a busy summer for me.  I helped plan a much needed, long awaited family reunion that was very much a success.  I spent two wonderful weeks in Jamaica and during that time, I had a major epiphany:  my home environment is no good for my skin.  I’ve come to accept that I will not ever be one of those women with a flawless complexion.  The fact is, most of my skin woes are tied to my hormones, and no cream can solve that.  However, during my vacation, I was having so much fun that I pretty much ditched my regular skin care routine.  I did everything that is a no-no for achieving good skin: drank too much alcohol, indulged in a couple of Cuban cigars, stayed up late, woke up early (not enough rest), didn’t drink enough water, and ate whatever looked delicious and most of the time I fell into bed (forget about washing my face).  The biggest surprise is that at this very moment, I have the skin I’ve always wanted.  It doesn’t have a mark or pimple.  It’s even (thanks to the island sun) and smooth.  I didn’t expect this at all.  Interestingly enough, there were a few others in my family that experienced the same phenomenon.  Now that I’m back home, I am awaiting the dreaded blemishes that are bound to appear on my face.  The only conclusion I can come up with, as to why my skin cleared up so beautifully, is that island life must agree with me.  I need to start playing the lottery and move some where tropical.

Summer Break

I have to apologize to any one who has been dropping by to see if I wrote anything new.  This is pretty much it.  It’s summer, and I’m trying to make the most of it while it lasts (never mind the weather is bipolar!).  I’ll be back in blogging mode in the later part of August, and with new info to share! So, enjoy your summer everyone! monarch-beach-c

7 Minutes Flat

At least, that’s a goal that most of us share (especially after popping out a couple of kids).  One of the sexiest things to me is a flat, washboard stomach.  Now, I will admit that I absolutely hate exercise.  It’s not that I’m lazy…far from it.  I’ve always been active. Loved sports, climbing trees and riding my bike when I was younger.  I’m very active at work, and with young children I get more than my share of a great workout.  What I can’t stand is working out at the gym.  I’ve wasted money on two memberships in the past, and I’ve learned that I do not have the inclination or discipline to leave my house just to go to the gym.  I’m at my best when playing a sport, game or doing something that is physically challenging.  In other words, my mind has to be occupied with more than just how many reps I’m doing.  To all those out there who are gym bunnies, you truly have my respect, because I can’t stick it out.  A couple of summers ago, I decided to tackle my stomach.  Before kids, it was flat and firm.  After my last child, it eventually flattened out (somewhat), but there was a roll (small one) and my stomach itself needed toning.  It was soft and pudgy and when I poked it with my finger, it would sink all the way in as if I were made of Pillsbury dough just like our little friend on the commercial.  I decided to find an exercise regimen to help with this concern of mine.  At the time I had Exercise TV on demand, so it was easy to browse through what they had to find something for the stomach area.  What I found was 7 Minute Abs.  It seemed perfect, because I didn’t have the discipline for something long, but I felt confident that I could do 7 minutes every other day.

It hurt like hell.

I didn’t know 7 minutes was all it took to bring me to the point of nearly passing out.  My stomach remained on fire for days, but I kept with it and did the routine all summer.  By six weeks my tummy was almost as flat as before I had kids, and I had faint definition lines.   I  put a close friend on to the routine and she adopted my schedule, soon to discover similar results to mine several weeks later.  My stomach went from pudgy to firm.  When I poke it with my finger, the muscle does not cave in. My finger bounces back.  I still use the program on occasion, and haven’t found anything better.  I recommend watching it through one time before starting.  That way you have an idea of the sequence of movements.  Also, a yoga mat is definitely helpful.

My Make Up Must Haves…

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Confession: I’ve had a love affair with make up since I was a little girl.  Make up and nail polish, to be exact.  My mother refused to let me wear nail polish until I was in my early teens, but I had free rein to play with her make up.  It seems that history is repeating itself.  I am now a mother to two girls (ages 6 & 4) and am doing to them what my oh-so-wise mother did to me. (No nail polish yet. Besides, all those chemicals sit in our bodies and have been linked to fertility problems later on.)  Anyway, one of my favorite stores is Sephora.  I love the fact that you can get a sample made for you from just about any cream type product or fragrance.  A couple of days ago I was spraying  perfume on a test strip and the customer associate offered to make a tester of the scent for me.  I watched as she took out a plastic vial, sprayed the perfume in it, and put a pump top on.  I was able to test out the perfume for a few days to decide if I really liked it enough to buy it.  Anyway, with all that said, here are a few of my favorite new products.  They’ve been out for a little while, but are worth checking.

Too Faced Shadow Insurance: I like this primer. A lot.  I’ve been sleeping on the benefits of using an eye primer for a while now. Mainly because I used one years ago that really did not work.  Eyelids do not have oil glands and yet my eyelids are always a little greasy.  Probably because when I moisturize my face, I do all of it.  This stuff blends easily and creates the perfect canvas for your eyeshadow to pop (colour wise) and stay put.  I mainly use this primer sans eye shadow just to give my lid a matte look that lasts all day. This way, I look natural, but not greasy.  I recommend this over the Urban Decay’s eyeshadow Primer Potion any day.

Imju Fiberwig Mascara: Leave it to the Japanese to engineer something as ingenious as this!  Day after day I would stare at the ad on the train for this mascara.  Many a time I heard some man ask his girlfriend, “What are Panda eyes?” because of it.  Until something better comes out, I will gladly put my money down for this mascara.  I have the shortest, sparsest eyelashes of anyone I personally know.  I’ve tried every type of mascara to build on the little that I have.  The first time I used Fiberwig, I could literally see the product building on my lash to extend it.  I did one eye and then let my husband (who could care less) check out how amazing it is.  There is definitely a trick to using this product because it is like a paint on extension.  You can’t slap Fiberwig on like regular mascara because it will cause your eyelashes to touch your brow bone, causing you to look ridiculous.  I was told to hold the wand pointing almost vertical, but with a slight slant (think acute angle), and only do the tips of the lashes.  This advice worked. Oh yeah, and as promised, you can rub your eyes and no smudging. No panda eyes. AND,  it comes off very easily.  I use this product by itself on regular days, and I use it after using a mascara when I want to really play up my eyes. Love, love, love this.

Smashbox O-Glow Intuitive Cheek Color: I can’t remember how I discovered this nifty little gel.  I like a little colour on the cheeks.  Nothing too strong or garish.  Usually when I hear that something is “intuitive” (especially with a beauty product), I tend to disregard it.  This is mainly because darker skin tones tend to be left out when it comes to the formulation of products that are supposed to ‘know’ what to do.  I was pleasantly surprised with this blush (that’s really what it is).  It is a light, clear gel that amazingly becomes the perfect shade of rose (based on your skin tone) once you apply it.  If you like the idea of blush, but hate having to pick one out, this is the product for you.  It’s hard to goof O-Glow up since the only way you could really do that is by using too much of the gel.  There is also an O-Gloss that Smashbox sells.  It’s not as remarkable as the O-Glow, truth be told.  I like it well enough, mainly because it feels very good (and non-sticky) on the lip, but it doesn’t impress me the way that the O-Glow does.

Well, there you have it.  A review on a few of the products I’m using and loving.  If you know of a great make up or beauty product, please share!

Visions of Bora Bora

gardeniaI’ve never been to Bora Bora. Let me start off with that admission. *smiles*

Despite the crazy weather we’ve been experiencing, summer is almost here.  Like most Canadians, summer is my favorite season.  As the weather gets warmer, my skincare/beauty regimen changes in order to accommodate my skin.  By the time it’s late June, body lotions and creams are completely banished and out comes the oil.  Sweet Almond, Sweet Cherry Kernel, Olive and Apricot Kernel oils are favorites of mine.  These oils come from plants/seeds and are quickly absorbed into the skin.  My skin glows and feels moisturized without having a slick coating that stays on top of my skin (unlike lotion, which can feel pretty disgusting if you start to sweat).  For skin that is prone to break outs, Fractionated Coconut oil is great.  It moisturizes without clogging pores, so this is perfect for someone like myself.  Lately, I’ve been using Monoi de Tahiti oil.  Basically, it is coconut oil steeped with Tiare (Tahitian Gardenia) flowers.  It smells like, well, Gardenia.  Genuine Monoi de Tahiti is backed by an Appellation d’Origine (a Guarantee of Origin) to protect the product’s quality and authenticity. The flowers are soaked in the coconut oil for a minimum of 15 days.  I like using this oil.  It smells good (admittedly, the smell can seem strong coming out of the bottle at first) and I smell like a Gardenia all day long.  My only complaint is that it doesn’t come in a bigger bottle.  One final note: Nars does sell a product that is supposedly Monoi de Tahiti oil; however, I refuse to pay $60 for it when the bottle I have (though not as aesthetically pleasing to look at) is definitely the genuine article and set me back a mere $6.50.  I can put the $53.50  I didn’t spend on Nars, towards my plane ticket to Bora Bora.

It’s about time!

I am a voracious reader.  I devour books.  Almost ten years ago, I read a novel that was barely 200 pages, if that long.  The name of that novel is PUSH.  I remember this story because it was so well written, so gritty and heartwrenching…and it was the first book I had ever read that moved me to tears (since then, few others have managed to do the same). The story is about Precious, a teenager pregnant by her father for the second time.  She’s abused, obese, dark and uneducated, but she attempts to do better for herself and her baby.  I am so pleased that Sapphire’s work is now on the big screen for all to see.  I hope the movie does justice to the book.

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